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Episode 28: Why Spoons Can Measure Your Boundaries

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Why You Need To Jingle Your Spoons?

“You just need to jingle your spoons, Mum.”

This was Ryan’s response when I told him that I’d got off a phone call with a friend and felt exhausted. It turns out that there is a technique in psychology that uses “spoons” to define how much emotional energy a person is feeling that day.

It’s such a brilliant idea because it’s measurable and specific. There are none of the usual subjective measures of “I’m not feeling crash hot” or “I’m a bit tired” or “I don’t have the energy for that”. With ‘spoons’, you can describe how energetic you’re feeling (or not) and have the person you’re speaking to get a good idea immediately.

Join me and Ryan (my second child) for this discussion.

Why Spoons Could Be The Answer

Listen to the podcast and find out:

  • Where the Emotional Spoons theory came from
  • How to use emotional spoons
  • Why emotional spoons are like Leprechaun Gold
  • How we can use spoons to help us in our self-care
  • Why new mothers and menopausal women are constantly in negative spoons and what they can do about it
  • How to look at your daily routine to see whether your tasks/agenda increase or decrease the number of spoons you have
  • How to Jingle and Jangle your spoons

Listen to the podcast and find out more about this brilliant idea and how you can use it in your life.

“You just need to jingle your spoons, Mum.” This was Ryan’s response when I told him that I’d got off a phone call with a friend and felt exhausted.

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About Today’s Guest Ryan O'Connor

Actor, Director, Playwright

Spoon Theory is a disability metaphor, the idea of someone who's struggling with a chronic illness or a mental illness has a certain number of spoons in the day or emotional energy.

Ryan J O’Connor is a Geelong-based writer of original, alternative plays and prose.

He’s the co-founder and executive director of Someone New Theatre Company, the winner of the 2019 Grace Marion Wilson Trust Award for Playwriting, and an acclaimed actor and director throughout NSW and Victoria.

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He is also an excellent baker, a trained stage-combatist, a terrible gardener, and a moderately talented poker player.

He does his best writing while trying to avoid his responsibilities, but loves to tell ‘alternative’ stories: romantic comedies about Death, coming-of-age stories about old men, and science-fiction tales about mythological creatures, just to name a few.

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